“Your partner/date has an anxious attachment style. In relationships, you are often on high alert for any signs of control or impingement on your territory by your partner.”Īttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love You tend not to open up to your partners and they often complain that you are emotionally distant. You don’t spend much time worrying about your romantic relationships or about being rejected. Even though you do want to be close to others, you feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and tend to keep your partner at arm’s length. Avoidant: It is very important for you to maintain your independence and self-sufficiency and you often prefer autonomy to intimate relationships. You share your successes and problems with your mate, and are able to be there for him or her in times of need. You effectively communicate your needs and feelings to your partner and are strong at reading your partner’s emotional cues and responding to them.

You take things in stride when it comes to romance and don’t get easily upset over relationship matters. You enjoy being intimate without becoming overly worried about your relationships.

Secure: Being warm and loving in a relationship comes naturally to you. If the other person provides a lot of security and reassurance, however, you are able to shed much of your preoccupation and feel contented. As a result, you tend to act out and say things you later regret. You experience a lot of negative emotions within the relationship and get easily upset. You tend to be very sensitive to small fluctuations in your partner’s moods and actions, and although your senses are often accurate, you take your partner’s behaviors too personally. Relationships tend to consume a large part of your emotional energy. You often fear, however, that your partner does not wish to be as close as you would like him/her to be. “Anxious: You love to be very close to your romantic partners and have the capacity for great intimacy.

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